7:00 - 1 children are born neurologically fragile not resilient 10:27 - 2 children need their parents' presence physically and emotionally as much as possible throughout childhood not just 0 to 3 11:01 - 3 children need mentally healthy parents 11:06 - 4 children need stability and community 13:01 - 5 children need a childhood where technology use is regulated
Thank you Erica Komisar for speaking up against your own profession:
13:43 parents play the most important role they need to take responsibility for their children's mental health
18:45 Psychiatry should be a last resort when a child is showing signs of anxiety depression ADHD or behavioral problems unless there is a severe crisis
A correction: CS Lewis never said that “Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.” Dr. John Trainer did.
J
@JojoRose695
24
I went to a childminder full time from SIX WEEKS OLD. Riddled with anxiety and depression through my entire childhood. Often calling at the sick office to go home from 7 years old. Self harmed in teenage years. Failed exams I could have passed easily. Agoraphobic for 6 years anorexia for 8 years. Struggled with life a lot including addictions until I found God. Now in my 30s mum of 3 and I stay at home. Children are a blessing and id rather be poor (I am) than put them through what I went through. Such a waste of my life. When your own mother doesn’t know you it’s hard to convince yourself you’re worth knowing. To anyone wondering what they should do in this situation, if you can stay home even if you’re on benefits/welfare DO IT. don’t worry what others think you’re only answerable to your children 20 yrs later no one else and after 4/5 short years they’re at school and you can go back part time or whatever suits. Nobody lays on their death bed wishing they’d worked longer or made more money. No one. Love to all just do your best ❤
M
@mirma2590
11
Great speech! I was lucky enough to be a stay at home mother to our two lovely children (now grown ups) for the first few years. Of course, I had to give up my own financial independence for awhile (what was not easy), but no amount of money would have replaced those years I spent with them at home. I would buy nearly everything in charity shops (e.g. clothes, books, toys etc). We frequently visited the local community library where we borrowed books… We were also lucky to have had a local toy library - this was a blessing! We lived near the sea, where the children adored playing with pebbles; no trips to McDonalds or restaurants. Pure home cooking - consequently, our children did not grow up addicted to fast food. Love to all!
C
@crystalwilkerson5137
9
All my children were in daycare. My last two started at 2 months. However, I'm not fortunate like most of you mom on here. I have to work and pay bills, I don't have nobody or family to help with my kids so I put my kids in a 5star parent aware daycare. Never had any issues. In fact my children are all above grade level. So if you can stay home with your children that's great. But for some of us this is not our reality. I'm a follower of Christ. So I also believe finding a God Fearing Christ centered daycare or school is best when raising disciples for Christ God bless you all
A
@annastoyanova1722
6
Yes, but 100 years ago a woman was never alone with her child all day long for years. It was a village, it was other mothers and community that helps each other. I have spent 3 years of my life taking care of my son with no help but his father. It was mentally exosting to me too. I was to a point of cring daily snapping at my child for the smallest thing. Just beeing there isn't enough. We mothers need community above all. Waiting for child number two right now this is my main focus. Unfortunately with the divorce rates these days and man cheating (partially because of social media) placing mothers at home raising kids without own income stream puts them in other kind of dangerous situations where she could be trapped with no where to go. Only if life was that simple.
E
@elizabethdavid9964
5
I am.most fortunate to have been able to be a stay at home Mum for my two children till my youngest turned 5yrs. Indeed motherhood is most important.
K
@KaikeyRongpee
5
Now I realised why I was always empty inside my parents were always busy with their job. We were always under helper's observation and never got a true family emotion. Now myself being a mother my priorities are my children I'll not repeat the history. My children are my responsibility and I always try my best to raise my children with care and love.
S
@snwankwo1889
3
Wholeheartedly agree! I am Mom of 2 and started a home daycare in Ontario, Canada so that I could stay home with my children. Hard work, but I have never regretted it! I am also a Christian and so grateful that God gave us His word to teach us how to live. 💞 One of the saddest things our society has done is make it nearly impossible for families to afford to live on one income. 😢
T
@thaisstoicow
3
This is so hard to watch, as a single mom who carries the weight of the world on her shoulders and tries to juggle all roles into one person. 😔
A
@annaruda6629
2
Finally someone says it out loud. I work at nursery for the last 10 years and I can tell you more than half of staff isn't dedicated and they don't have an empathy
J
@JojoRose695
24
I went to a childminder full time from SIX WEEKS OLD. Riddled with anxiety and depression through my entire childhood. Often calling at the sick office to go home from 7 years old. Self harmed in teenage years. Failed exams I could have passed easily. Agoraphobic for 6 years anorexia for 8 years. Struggled with life a lot including addictions until I found God. Now in my 30s mum of 3 and I stay at home. Children are a blessing and id rather be poor (I am) than put them through what I went through. Such a waste of my life. When your own mother doesn’t know you it’s hard to convince yourself you’re worth knowing. To anyone wondering what they should do in this situation, if you can stay home even if you’re on benefits/welfare DO IT. don’t worry what others think you’re only answerable to your children 20 yrs later no one else and after 4/5 short years they’re at school and you can go back part time or whatever suits. Nobody lays on their death bed wishing they’d worked longer or made more money. No one. Love to all just do your best ❤
M
@mirma2590
11
Great speech! I was lucky enough to be a stay at home mother to our two lovely children (now grown ups) for the first few years. Of course, I had to give up my own financial independence for awhile (what was not easy), but no amount of money would have replaced those years I spent with them at home. I would buy nearly everything in charity shops (e.g. clothes, books, toys etc). We frequently visited the local community library where we borrowed books… We were also lucky to have had a local toy library - this was a blessing! We lived near the sea, where the children adored playing with pebbles; no trips to McDonalds or restaurants. Pure home cooking - consequently, our children did not grow up addicted to fast food. Love to all!
C
@crystalwilkerson5137
9
All my children were in daycare. My last two started at 2 months. However, I'm not fortunate like most of you mom on here. I have to work and pay bills, I don't have nobody or family to help with my kids so I put my kids in a 5star parent aware daycare. Never had any issues. In fact my children are all above grade level. So if you can stay home with your children that's great. But for some of us this is not our reality. I'm a follower of Christ. So I also believe finding a God Fearing Christ centered daycare or school is best when raising disciples for Christ God bless you all
A
@annastoyanova1722
6
Yes, but 100 years ago a woman was never alone with her child all day long for years. It was a village, it was other mothers and community that helps each other. I have spent 3 years of my life taking care of my son with no help but his father. It was mentally exosting to me too. I was to a point of cring daily snapping at my child for the smallest thing. Just beeing there isn't enough. We mothers need community above all. Waiting for child number two right now this is my main focus. Unfortunately with the divorce rates these days and man cheating (partially because of social media) placing mothers at home raising kids without own income stream puts them in other kind of dangerous situations where she could be trapped with no where to go. Only if life was that simple.
E
@elizabethdavid9964
5
I am.most fortunate to have been able to be a stay at home Mum for my two children till my youngest turned 5yrs. Indeed motherhood is most important.
K
@KaikeyRongpee
5
Now I realised why I was always empty inside my parents were always busy with their job. We were always under helper's observation and never got a true family emotion. Now myself being a mother my priorities are my children I'll not repeat the history. My children are my responsibility and I always try my best to raise my children with care and love.
S
@snwankwo1889
3
Wholeheartedly agree! I am Mom of 2 and started a home daycare in Ontario, Canada so that I could stay home with my children. Hard work, but I have never regretted it! I am also a Christian and so grateful that God gave us His word to teach us how to live. 💞 One of the saddest things our society has done is make it nearly impossible for families to afford to live on one income. 😢
T
@thaisstoicow
3
This is so hard to watch, as a single mom who carries the weight of the world on her shoulders and tries to juggle all roles into one person. 😔
A
@annaruda6629
2
Finally someone says it out loud. I work at nursery for the last 10 years and I can tell you more than half of staff isn't dedicated and they don't have an empathy
7:00 - 1 children are born neurologically fragile not resilient
10:27 - 2 children need their parents' presence physically and emotionally as much as possible throughout childhood not just 0 to 3
11:01 - 3 children need mentally healthy parents
11:06 - 4 children need stability and community
13:01 - 5 children need a childhood where technology use is regulated
Thank you Erica Komisar for speaking up against your own profession:
13:43 parents play the most important role they need to take responsibility for their children's mental health
18:45 Psychiatry should be a last resort when a child is showing signs of anxiety depression ADHD or behavioral problems unless there is a severe crisis
A correction: CS Lewis never said that “Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.” Dr. John Trainer did.
I was lucky enough to be a stay at home mother to our two lovely children (now grown ups) for the first few years. Of course, I had to give up my own financial independence for awhile (what was not easy), but no amount of money would have replaced those years I spent with them at home. I would buy nearly everything in charity shops (e.g. clothes, books, toys etc). We frequently visited the local community library where we borrowed books… We were also lucky to have had a local toy library - this was a blessing! We lived near the sea, where the children adored playing with pebbles; no trips to McDonalds or restaurants. Pure home cooking - consequently, our children did not grow up addicted to fast food. Love to all!
God bless you all
One of the saddest things our society has done is make it nearly impossible for families to afford to live on one income. 😢
I was lucky enough to be a stay at home mother to our two lovely children (now grown ups) for the first few years. Of course, I had to give up my own financial independence for awhile (what was not easy), but no amount of money would have replaced those years I spent with them at home. I would buy nearly everything in charity shops (e.g. clothes, books, toys etc). We frequently visited the local community library where we borrowed books… We were also lucky to have had a local toy library - this was a blessing! We lived near the sea, where the children adored playing with pebbles; no trips to McDonalds or restaurants. Pure home cooking - consequently, our children did not grow up addicted to fast food. Love to all!
God bless you all
One of the saddest things our society has done is make it nearly impossible for families to afford to live on one income. 😢